How long after a break up to start dating again
When speaking with friends who are recently coming out of long-term relationships, it’s been interesting to see how their comments and questions about my dating life do a flip.When they were happy and settled in a relationship, stories of my misadventures in romance (of which I have many) were amusing to them.My ex and I were together 13 years and we just broke up last month.
Until then, do the next right thing that will lead you to feeling stronger, more interesting, more alive, and more loveable. As you start to heal, she will become less appealing to you.
Please keep in mind that this is our online home; ill-mannered house guests will be shown the door. I know people who take no time at all because towards the end of that relationship they were regaining their "sense of self" and independence until they had the strength to leave. Obviously with all time lines there are folks that fall way under the 3 month range, and folks that grieve way beyond that time frame.
I find it helpful to normalize a typical grief process for people who beat themselves up for not being able to move on sooner.
When you attract a partner at your lowest point, you are attracting a partner who finds your low-point desirable. This is what accounts for many "rebound" relationships. In a nutshell, when you feel good about who you are and what you have to offer get out there and date. Which means that it's also specific to gay and lesbian folks mostly, and in particular those who seek counseling.
When you "rebound" the issue isn't the speed with which you move, it's where you are emotionally and what you have to offer when you start your relationship. Until then, don't worry about the amount of time it takes - focus on your next step to feeling better. Andrew, The 3 month observation is based solely on my experience with several hundreds of clients I have worked with in the last decade (seeking counseling with me because of a recent break up, a desire to break-up, or having attempted to repair a relationship that ultimately ends). Clearly these variables make my observations less generalizable than observations that would be made through formal scientific research of the general population at large.